Healing from infidelity is a complex and underexplored topic. Numerous studies highlight that sexuality and intimacy within relationships remain underexamined and under-addressed, with calls for more research and education in this area (Weiser et al., 2023). Esther Perel (2017) emphasizes this, noting that despite the prevalence of affairs, they remain poorly understood, leaving couples grappling with their impact without adequate support or resources.
One major issue is the lack of programs and training that address the intersection of sexuality and relational health. Many mental and physical health professionals receive little to no education in this critical area, leading to gaps in care (Siegel, 2019). Further complicating matters, much of the existing research focuses on heteronormative, Christian marriages, leaving out the experiences of diverse populations (Kraus, Personal Communication, 2023).
Infidelity is not only common but also a significant cause of relationship distress. Research shows that one-fifth to one-quarter of marriages experience infidelity, and the numbers rise to 65% when non-married relationships are included (Warach et al., 2018). Infidelity is often cited as the primary cause of divorce worldwide, and more than half of couples seeking therapy list it as their main reason for counseling (Warach & Josephs, 2021).
Despite the widespread impact of infidelity, few clinicians feel adequately trained to address it. Many therapists report lacking confidence in treating infidelity due to limited education in the subject (Rokach & Chan, 2023). Sexuality, intimacy, and interpersonal relationship issues are critical components of treatment, but they are often overlooked in counselor education programs (Zeglin et al., 2018).
This lack of training leaves a significant gap in the field. Few clinicians, whether in mental health, addiction treatment, or private practice, receive the education needed to address the complexities of infidelity, sexual dysfunction, and relationship concerns. As a result, issues related to sexuality and betrayal are rarely addressed at the level clients need.
In conclusion, there is an urgent need for more education and inclusive approaches to treating infidelity. Mental health professionals must be equipped with the knowledge and tools to provide culturally and psychologically informed care for both those who have been betrayed and those who have betrayed. Addressing these gaps will improve the quality of care and help individuals
and couples heal from the profound emotional pain of infidelity.
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