In relationships, infidelity can often be seen as one form of Problematic Sexual Behavior (PSB), but it’s important to define infidelity within the context of each relationship. As noted by Wróblewska-Skrzek (2023), infidelity is essentially a violation of the relational contract—an unspoken or explicit understanding about the boundaries and commitments within a relationship. This contract may vary from couple to couple, or group to group, depending on their unique connection and agreements.
Unfortunately, much of the current research on infidelity focuses on traditional, heterosexual monogamous marriages, often leaving out diverse relational structures, sexual orientations, and cultural backgrounds. As Dr. Shane Kraus notes (Personal Communication, 2023), studies on PSB and infidelity often fail to capture the experiences of those outside Christian Caucasian heterosexual marriages, contributing to a gap in understanding the broader impact of these behaviors. While large-scale studies are underway, the results are not yet available, further emphasizing the need for tools and research that support individuals and relationships from diverse backgrounds.
One subset of PSB is compulsive problematic sexual behaviors. Compulsivity in other behaviors has been well studied and generally refers to the continuation of actions despite negative consequences (Everitt & Robbins, 2016). In the context of sexual behaviors, this means continuing actions that violate personal values, break commitments, and cause harm even when those behaviors have clear negative effects. Individuals struggling with compulsive PSB may find it difficult to stop their behavior, even when they know it’s causing emotional or psychological harm to themselves or others.
For example, compulsive sexual behaviors might include consistently seeking out risky sexual encounters, consuming pornography in a way that interferes with daily life, or engaging in secret affairs. What’s critical here is the pattern: the inability to stop despite the harmful outcomes.
It’s important for those dealing with compulsive problematic sexual behaviors to seek support, whether through therapy or peer groups, as these behaviors often have deep emotional or psychological roots. Addressing these issues with a compassionate, non-judgmental approach can lead to recovery and healing, both for the individual and their loved ones.
In conclusion, understanding PSB—whether through the lens of infidelity or compulsive behavior—is key to fostering healthier relationships and personal well-being. As more inclusive research becomes available, we hope to gain better tools for addressing these challenges across a wide range of experiences.
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